Tuesday 29 July 2014

Friendship - ever flowing relationship

Every Relationship flow like a River but i chose Friendship because this is one relationship we chose when destiny , good luck and your decisions to select a person for no reason have a perfect blend.

Like a river whose origin is mostly not sure shot and so we cant say when and how this relation started but it flow like small quiet channels crossing small hills to gain form of young river where it is fast flows with lots of energy, river is smaller here but has a tumbling flow. This phase of Relation is most enjoyable time where we run against time to enjoy it together as much as we can. Young river create waterfalls where it carves out layer of rock. A Friendship at beginning carve out your personality and it put impressions on your characteristics, as they say, " a man is known by his friends".

In middle  of it a river reach to ground , a little bit mature phase where we know each others pretty well, discuss problems , share emotions and it all goes quietly. The Relation occuied vast shape , everywhere you find it close to yourself. You start believing this is gona to be same. It give you confidence that no matter how big problem would come, you are going to merge it into this boundless source of positive energy. At this phase river often meander and deposit sand and gravel that it took with it and create Islands, Island where friends sit to share joy and sorrow, talk nonsensically without caring about damn world.

In next phase,river is slow. At someplace it disappear but still its flowing deep inside stones and Rocks, it remained there, flowing silently because to flow always is its nature. sometime relationship exists without communication without exchanging words but it exists beneath the rock of faith , it flow continuously.There is one difference, river end its journey at mouth when it meet ocean, but a true relationship never dies.

No one can help you

I Spend (or waste) time to make people happy around me. Why ? Because i like to make other happy. Seeing people around me smiling make me feel good or sometime this small thins make me feel proud. Often they said, "I never met someone who make me feel so comfortable, who listen me and understand me for what i am and not being so judgmental."
But all this is just a good side of broad picture. Because when i feel to have someone to listen me , understand me. I often fall among people who either not very comfortable for me to even speak my feelings or judgmental or already have same incident with them (most irritating of all kind) or have their own close perception, they always compare everything with their less circumference world.
Some people are too dangerous to ask something that they only reply with words that are close to perfection. their advice is like you have asked some saint about Moksha. It only add to my sad feelings.
I feel so low at that time as these kind of people seem to be perfect (virtually because of their words but they are Asaram Bapu kathni alag karni alag).
Few people are damn good actor as they act as they were listening you, but they were only hearing you.Once you end up with your words they will start with their. If you were talking about Gaza problem, they would drag you to their fight with neighbour and would also put string with both incidents (but you would never got any connection). It remind me famous dialogue of pyar ka punchnama (tumne ungli kese uthai)
There are some who talk very gently with you when everything going good in their life, as soon as some bad thing strike in their way they will start blaming you for everything. It would happen that you might be in depression and they know it. but they would not come to you because their dog is ill. But as soon this big problem of theirs end they will show like they took a great care of yours. They never care how much you did for them and in what conditions you have helped them. For them only reason to help you is like doing charity as rich people do. Rich people do charity to show poor,"look i have money" so they helped you to show their happiness. May God bless them all happiness </3.
There is one most irritating specie that have experience of everything in their life. You tell them any thing their first reply will be,"it happened with me also", then they will show you how bravely they fought with tough times and got out of it. In starting i believe them but everytime ???i mean really ??? you faced everything and still here ? why not became adviser of PM. Country will get benefit of your wisdom.

yes there are few people who do not fall in any category mentioned above, They are real gem. Try to have them for lifetime(or maximum possible period).
but what to do to handle life ?
help yourself.
Only you can help yourself in best possible way